Quoiromantic, also known as WTFromantic, is an alternative to a romantic orientation label.
The originator of the quoi- prefix, Cor, defines being quoiromantic as 1) not understanding or actively disidentifying with romance/romantic attraction/romantic orientation as sensible/applicable categories, personally, or 2) feeling that these categories are personally inaccessible, inapplicable, or non-sensical. The premise of the quoi- identity challenges the idea that these concepts are universally applicable and relevant.
Quoiromantic experiences may include:
- Being unsure if you experience romantic attraction or not
- Being unable to understand attraction as a concept or feeling
- Finding the concept of attraction to be inaccessible, inapplicable, or nonsensical
- Being unable to pin down a clear understanding of romantic attraction, so being unable to say whether or not you experience it
- Having a difficulty distinguishing romantic attraction from other types of attraction, or being unable to distinguish them at all
- Questioning romanticism for such a long time that the questioning itself becomes the identity, rather than a path toward any other more stable identity
- Struggling with romanticism because it feels to complicated
- Simply not feeling that any other romantic orientation label is applicable
As a consequence of the romantic orientation model becoming popular in the asexual community in the 2000s, some asexual people began to openly discuss why the model did not feel right for them. For example, Kaz wrote that for zer, asking "so what's your romantic orientation?" is "the wrong question." In 2011, in order to express frustration with the system, Sciatrix began half-jokingly referring to herself as "wtfromantic" (as in "what-the-fuck-romantic"). In her words, "it started as a flippant, honestly fairly sarcastic frustrated comment, not an attempt as a serious identity designation," one she did not expect to resonate with other people and begin to proliferate. As a more pronounceable alternative, quoiromantic was proposed by Cor in 2012. Both terms are still in use today. The premise of the quoiromantic identity has also spread to other areas, resulting terms such as quoisexual, quoigender, and quoigenic.
It is unknown how many people identify with quoiromanticism outside the asexual community, but the results of the 2016 asexual community census showed that 9.5% of respondents identify as quoiromantic or wtfromantic.
- A Note on Quoi-
- Quoi- is NOT “can’t tell”
- Quoiro/WTFromantic: a brief timeline of disidentification with & personal rejection of romantic orientation
- Writhing in the Throes of Unrequited Like
- A Set of Affections Difficult to Characterize
- A thought
- Bauer, C., Miller, T., Ginoza, M., Guo, Y., Youngblom, K., Baba, A., Penten, P., Meinhold, M., Ramaraj, V., Ziebert, J.,Trieu, T., Adroit, M., (2018). The 2016 Asexual Community Survey Summary Report. The Asexual Community Survey Team.
- Cor's Quoiromantic Flag Proposal
- Quoiromantic Flag Designs
- Simplified Quoi Flag Proposals
- Spiral Q Symbol